Why should I get married? I don't need anyone to help me do anything and I'm living my best life as a single person. If this is you, then great! I've always been a proponent of experiencing all you can as a single person because you are free and can do as you please. You may have responsibilities but not nearly as much as when you are married or married with children.
You are still accountable to God, family, leadership and maybe friends, but for the most part you are as free as a bird. While in this season of your life I encourage you to meet new people, explore different cultures, get involved in ministry, develop a quality relationship with God and see the world. The experiences you have in singleness will definitely enrich your marriage when/if the time comes.
If however, you've decided that marriage is a covenant you want to enter into, then let's talk about the true purpose of marriage so that you can be fully aware of what you are asking for.
If you haven't read my last two posts FIGHT TO STAY TOGETHER and WORKING TO STAY TOGETHER, pause right here and take a read. In those posts I talk a little about the challenges a marriage can go through when it doesn't start off on the right foot.
In this post we're going to go into the purpose of marriage and hopefully these words will realign your perspective and give you a new outlook on your bond with your spouse. Ready? ok let's go!
"The purpose of marriage is to spiritually, emotionally and physically unite a man and a women together, as husband and wife, in a covenant relationship between themselves and their Creator." - purposeofmarriage.org
A marriage covenant is a vow made in the presence of God, and is valid until death. It is a commitment that is irreversible and does not depend on the actions of either spouse. In the eyes of God, it's until death do you part honey. Therefore, that divorce decree is not valid in God's eyes. That is why Jesus said, “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."
Here's my interpretation of what He is saying. "I understand what everyone else is saying but this is what I am saying and my word is the only valid word because I created this institution. The only way I will cosign a broken marital covenant is if there is sexual immorality. Other than that, I'm not signing off." Whew! This is serious business.
Although the secular world has re-defined marriage as just a contract between two people, God never intended it to be that way, because a contract can be easily broken.
Disclaimer: I understand there are situations that warrant a separation such as domestic violence. In these instances as in all marital challenges, it is best to see a licensed counselor, minister or another authority for guidance and assistance.
The number one purpose for marriage?
1. Our marriages are supposed to reflect God's relationship with us and His love for us cannot be broken no matter what we do. That is how our marriages should be. This is the number one purpose for marriage.
So what is the difference between a covenant and a contract?
- A covenant is based on trust between parties. A contract is based on distrust.
- A covenant is based on unlimited responsibility. A contract is based on limited liability.
- A covenant cannot be broken if new circumstances occur. A contract is performance based and can be voided by mutual consent.
Our marriages are a visual reflection of our love relationship with an invisible God. That is why both spouses need to be connected to God in order for the marriage to work at it's full potential. See Ephesians 5:25
Other purposes for marriage:
2. Companionship. (Genesis chap 2)
3. Enjoyment. The physical relationship shared among marriage partners is what makes the twobecome "one flesh" (Hebrews 13:4).
4. Fruitfulness. The blessing of children in a marriage relationship allows that relationship to reproduce itself physically and add to the kingdom. (Genesis 1:28).
5. Protection. The husband protects the wife by laying down his life for her (Ephesians 5:25). The wife is to protect the home (Titus 2:4-5).
If you look closely at this love covenant, it takes serious commitment and love to get it right. And guess what? The more you attempt to achieve God's purpose for marriage is the more YOU become Christ-like. How wonderful is that! God has a purpose for every area of our lives and He does all things well.
This is the last of the YOUNG MARRIAGE series, but if you would like me to cover any other topics, feel free to comment below or shoot me an email. Nothing is off limits and I promise I won't judge you. We are in this together!
Until next time,
Live in gratitude. Live in Love.